Marriage the Way God Intended
There are a lot of people who will tell you marriage is what you make of it and what you put in you will get out of it. You’ve probably heard that a family that prays stays together stays together. Only if all of those were true; could we then rule out what God’s plan on marriage? Not so, your life depends on it. In your vows you promised to love, honor, and cherish her as long as you both shall live. Did you lie or forget using selective memory? Adultery is and always a sin. We call extra marital affair still a sin. Forsaking all others (NO affairs with women or men) in what ways and you have an affair? 1.) Time spent away from home, 2.) Secret meeting with someone your spouse does not know about. 3.) Occupying space and ignoring those around you. Today it is during the vows is the beginning of a marriage between the couple and God. Once the ceremony is over and the Honey Moon starts that is sensitive and can be what makes or breaks the marriage. Some say that it is better to spend 6 weeks alone on some type of Honey Moon (plan your Honey Moon with your job do not neglect your marital needs this is a very sensitive time); cannot express that enough. If God commands you to love your wife why would he put a limit on how much you should love her? I hear so many men saying I am not allowed to love her the way I want to, because God knows I would worship the very ground she walks on. Explain the word cherish. According to http://www.merriam-webster.com transitive verb
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A: to hold dear: feel or show affection for <cherished her friends>b: to keep or cultivate with care and affection: nurture<cherishes his marriage>
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: To entertain or harbor in the mind deeply and resolutely
Let me say this if you are being abused get out. Sometimes you have to do the unthinkable walk out with just the cloths on your back and kids while he is away. If he is cheating and you know he is and you are not alright with it leave, but if you can work through it then stay. There are way too many diseases that cannot be cured, just something to think about. Is your life worth you living disease free and worry free? If he is cheating does he love you the way Christ loves the church? In what ways does Christ love the church (church does not mean building, but you) so do you love your wife equally? Husbands giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. This is about how you treat your wife in the aspects of mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually behavior from you? This is my favorite one not because I am a wife, but because husbands can’t disrespect or abuse their wives. So many men think that they can say harsh mean and treat the wife rudely. Then blame her for the reason of the harsh and rudeness of their actions. Hold on player let me help you with that; death and life are in the power of the tongue. Many of relationships are killed by what is spoken out of your mouth and many soar in harmony by the very words spoken. Is what you are saying or doing killing your marriage? If you kill your marriage are held accountable for it? If you are abiding by the bible God bless you and carry on, and many blessings follow you.
1.) How often do you tell her you love her? Some only tell their wife when going off to work and when going to bed.
2.) How often do you cuddle and plan a romantic night or moments with your wife? Some never do, but feel it is up to the wife to always plan.
3.) When was the last time you stared into your wife’s eyes and thanked God for her? Some take it for granted.
4.) Do you have intimacy in your marriage or are you depriving her and you of it?
5.) Do you sing to her and are you still doing what attracted her to you?
6.) Is your wife pleased with you?
A story
I am married to a wonderful man don’t get me wrong, but at a price. I sold my soul to learn I am not worthy to be loved. To be shunned never to feel the compassion of her mate nor know him to have her back. At childbearing learning of the unthinkable any uncaring self-centered man would do. Get himself checked out and let her find out later, and with excuses. Yes every time. I lived with the why he can’t cuddle, hold me, be intimate and be more loving towards me had to get over his past with his life before you. Yes I bought it. Not knowing his touch or how gentle he can be. All I know is gentle in bed and rough the rest of time. You are told to be whatever your husband needs of you. Do what you are told and do not question what he says. Sorry but the word tells us to love him not in ignorance but to use wisdom. Yes you are to keep the house clean and treat him as the king of his castle the priest of his house. In your vows you said that you promised to love, cherish, honor and obey your husband as long as you both shall live. Did you lie or forget using selective memory? Remember nobody can tell you how to be married to your husband, but they will try to advice you concerning marriage. Wrong or right it is up to you to choose to listen or ignore what you have been told. These are the things our mothers forgot to tell you about marriage, and what is expected of you as the wife. What to look for and do in the marriage. Adultery is and always a sin. We call extra marital affair a sin. Forsaking all others (NO affairs with women or men) in what ways can you have an affair? 1.) Time spent away from home, 2.) Secret meeting with someone your spouse does not know about. 3.) Occupying space and ignoring those around you. Wives are to honor by respecting the husbands and service them to whatever degree within reasoning. Gossip is not found in her, and she is seen as a woman of wisdom by staying true to who she is. Let me say this if you are being abused get out. If she is cheating and you know she is and you are not ok with it leave, but if you can work through it then stay. Same I stated for the husband can be said here for the wife. Do you serve your husband? Meals ready for him and bath drawn for him? Meaning are you serving your husband the way his needs are met physically by you?
1.) Are you soft spoken or forceful? Do you tend to let him shine or are you often the one shinning?
2.) Are you happy in your marriage? What needs to change to obtain the state of happiness your need? Hint: First look at you not him you cannot fix him, but you can fix you.
3.) Do you sing to him and are you still doing what attracted him to you?
4.) Is your husband pleased with you?
The union between husband and wife comes forth children. Before Children there should be a plan of raising them. The bible lets us know as parents we are held accountable the raising of these children that are given to us as gifts from God. God wants to tell us how to care for these precious little ones. Stop depending upon your children to pay your bills and theirs also. I have seen many parents ignoring what their children do and what they say. Today we have become a people that don’t believe it takes a village to raise children. So many of us believe in the straight and wide program, and too many on the loose and not caring program. Some on the pretending program of fence living.
1.) Are you teaching your children or are their peers parenting them?
2.) Are you there for your children or are their peers there for them?
3.) How effective are you as a parent or are their peers more appealing?
4.) Do you teach them the ways of Christianity or of your beliefs or their peers telling them their ways?
5.) Are you in contact with teachers and principals or are their peers the center focus of their life?
6.) Where do you as the parent fall in place of your child’s wellbeing?
This is just A Story!!
Well what is your story?
