Venting about Unstable People

I have often wondered how someone can be content being unstable. 

I struggle with the thought of a man not wanting a job but lives off of SSI, but his household struggles with him providing the very things his family needs.
He is quick to judge the man for doing what he is doing to his own family. Unstable in this aspect means you are selfish.
I do have a friend that does work but has a problem keeping it, and finds self looking for a place to stay as well as a new job with an old attitude. Grown children should not have to carry their parent/s as their burdens. When the only thought is on the mind job and a companion and then maybe a place of their own. Jump at the chance to stay with family or friends. What tbe heck, why does selfishness compel these people. (I am not talking about taking care of an elderly or sick parent, an able body).
I am a wife and a mother but I know selfishness to be a one side dish to lonely street. Selfish people are lazy and lackadaisical and are a willing aide in tearing down their own home with their own hands.
These are only two aspects of selfish unstable minded people I have put up with and allowed to abuse me and take advantage of me.
Tuesday vent day you know unstable people speak up and add if you like. Michele Richardson

House Hold Of Faith

GALATIANS 3:22-29

22 But the scripture hath concluded all under sin, that the promise by faith of Jesus Christ might be given to them that believe.

23 But before faith came, we were kept under the law, shut up unto faith which should afterwards be revealed.

24 Wherefore the law was our schoolmaster to bring us unto Christ, that we might be justified by faith.

25 But after that faith is come, we are no longer under a schoolmaster.

26 For ye are all children of God by faith in Christ Jesus.

27 for as many of you as  been baptized into Christ have put on Christ.

28 There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond or free, there is neither male nor female; for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.

29 If you be Christ’s, then are you Abraham’s seed, and heirs according to the promise. 

Here we are going to talk about FAITH. Without faith it is really impossible to live or even please God.

Faith is the ground floor, because to believe = faith.

Example: you have a friend that you believe tells you the truth and in that you have faith in the conversation you have with them.

Now when you believe in faith, and trust in faith and you will have full understanding in the faith,  and the belief thereof.

 Let’s look at the key words Mr. Webster threw at us here:

Trust

Hope

Believe

So with these three components must equal FAITH. What we do with it depends solely on who? (point at yourself and say it depends and starts with ME). As it was explained to me everyone trust in the very chair you are sitting to hold your weight, your or a vehicle to get you to point A to point B and return to point A.

Marriage the Way God Intended

Marriage the Way God Intended

                                    There are a lot of people who will tell you marriage is what you make of it and what you put in you will get out of it. You’ve probably heard that a family that prays stays together stays together. Only if all of those were true; could we then rule out what God’s plan on marriage? Not so, your life depends on it. In your vows you promised to love, honor, and cherish her as long as you both shall live. Did you lie or forget using selective memory? Adultery is and always a sin. We call extra marital affair still a sin. Forsaking all others (NO affairs with women or men) in what ways and you have an affair? 1.) Time spent away from home, 2.) Secret meeting with someone your spouse does not know about. 3.) Occupying space and ignoring those around you. Today it is during the vows is the beginning of a marriage between the couple and God. Once the ceremony is over and the Honey Moon starts that is sensitive and can be what makes or breaks the marriage. Some say that it is better to spend 6 weeks alone on some type of Honey Moon (plan your Honey Moon with your job do not neglect your marital needs this is a very sensitive time); cannot express that enough. If God commands you to love your wife why would he put a limit on how much you should love her? I hear so many men saying I am not allowed to love her the way I want to, because God knows I would worship the very ground she walks on. Explain the word cherish. According to http://www.merriam-webster.com   transitive verb

1

A: to hold dear: feel or show affection for <cherished her friends>b: to keep or cultivate with care and affection: nurture<cherishes his marriage>

2

: To entertain or harbor in the mind deeply and resolutely

Let me say this if you are being abused get out. Sometimes you have to do the unthinkable walk out with just the cloths on your back and kids while he is away. If he is cheating and you know he is and you are not alright with it leave, but if you can work through it then stay. There are way too many diseases that cannot be cured, just something to think about. Is your life worth you living disease free and worry free? If he is cheating does he love you the way Christ loves the church? In what ways does Christ love the church (church does not mean building, but you) so do you love your wife equally?  Husbands giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. This is about how you treat your wife in the aspects of mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually behavior from you? This is my favorite one not because I am a wife, but because husbands can’t disrespect or abuse their wives. So many men think that they can say harsh mean and treat the wife rudely. Then blame her for the reason of the harsh and rudeness of their actions. Hold on player let me help you with that; death and life are in the power of the tongue. Many of relationships are killed by what is spoken out of your mouth and many soar in harmony by the very words spoken. Is what you are saying or doing killing your marriage? If you kill your marriage are held accountable for it? If you are abiding by the bible God bless you and carry on, and many blessings follow you.

1.)    How often do you tell her you love her? Some only tell their wife when going off to work and when going to bed.

2.)    How often do you cuddle and plan a romantic night or moments with your wife? Some never do, but feel it is up to the wife to always plan.

3.)     When was the last time you stared into your wife’s eyes and thanked God for her? Some take it for granted.

4.)    Do you have intimacy in your marriage or are you depriving her and you of it?

5.)    Do you sing to her and are you still doing what attracted her to you?

6.)    Is your wife pleased with you?   

                                                                      A story

I am married to a wonderful man don’t get me wrong, but at a price. I sold my soul to learn I am not worthy to be loved. To be shunned never to feel the compassion of her mate nor know him to have her back. At childbearing learning of the unthinkable any uncaring self-centered man would do. Get himself checked out and let her find out later, and with excuses. Yes every time. I lived with the why he can’t cuddle,  hold me, be intimate and be more loving towards me had to get over his past with his life before you. Yes I bought it. Not knowing his touch or how gentle he can be. All I know is gentle in bed and rough the rest of time.  You are told to be whatever your husband needs of you. Do what you are told and do not question what he says. Sorry but the word tells us to love him not in ignorance but to use wisdom. Yes you are to keep the house clean and treat him as the king of his castle the priest of his house. In your vows you said that you promised to love, cherish, honor and obey your husband as long as you both shall live. Did you lie or forget using selective memory? Remember nobody can tell you how to be married to your husband, but they will try to advice you concerning marriage. Wrong or right it is up to you to choose to listen or ignore what you have been told. These are the things our mothers forgot to tell you about marriage, and what is expected of you as the wife. What to look for and do in the marriage. Adultery is and always a sin. We call extra marital affair a sin. Forsaking all others (NO affairs with women or men) in what ways can you have an affair? 1.) Time spent away from home, 2.) Secret meeting with someone your spouse does not know about. 3.) Occupying space and ignoring those around you.  Wives are to honor by respecting the husbands and service them to whatever degree within reasoning.  Gossip is not found in her, and she is seen as a woman of wisdom by staying true to who she is.  Let me say this if you are being abused get out. If she is cheating and you know she is and you are not ok with it leave, but if you can work through it then stay. Same I stated for the husband can be said here for the wife.  Do you serve your husband? Meals ready for him and bath drawn for him? Meaning are you serving your husband the way his needs are met physically by you?

1.)    Are you soft spoken or forceful? Do you tend to let him shine or are you often the one shinning?  

2.)    Are you happy in your marriage? What needs to change to obtain the state of happiness your need? Hint: First look at you not him you cannot fix him, but you can fix you.

3.)    Do you sing to him and are you still doing what attracted him to you?

4.)    Is your husband pleased with you?   

                                      The union between husband and wife comes forth children. Before Children there should be a plan of raising them. The bible lets us know as parents we are held accountable the raising of these children that are given to us as gifts from God. God wants to tell us how to care for these precious little ones. Stop depending upon your children to pay your bills and theirs also. I have seen many parents ignoring what their children do and what they say. Today we have become a people that don’t believe it takes a village to raise children. So many of us believe in the straight and wide program, and too many on the loose and not caring program. Some on the pretending program of fence living.

1.)    Are you teaching your children or are their peers parenting them?

2.)    Are you there for your children or are their peers there for them?

3.)    How effective are you as a parent or are their peers more appealing?

4.)    Do you teach them the ways of Christianity or of your beliefs or their peers telling them their ways?

5.)    Are you in contact with teachers and principals or are their peers the center focus of their life?

6.)    Where do you as the parent fall in place of your child’s wellbeing?
This is just A Story!!

Well what is your story?

Love Your Neighbor and Forgiveness

 

When my grandmother passed this past January, I flew in from Texas and stayed  in the house I grew up in and slept in my old bed room. My uncle and aunt living there and a day later their daughter and son in-law came in from New York; they slept in my mother’s old room. For the first two days before the funeral we all were joking and having and conversations. I knew tempers would run wild and ramped the day of the funeral on Saturday January 19, 2014. Well after the funeral it became very apparent that I was an outsider. My cousin from New York did not hesitate to show her hatred toward Christians seeing that everyone else in the house were Jehovah Witnesses. Realizing that neither my aunt or her daughter displayed wisdom in front of their company and bashing Christianity. All the while my aunt talked about the Pastor using his phone and miss quoting scriptures. Both agreed that the funeral service was like that of “Happy Feet.” 

I was quickly reminded of the 10 commandments that God (Jehovah) gave to Moses on the mount Ex. 20:7 – 17, but I would like to draw your attention to verses 13 – 17  it states:

13 Thou shall not kill. (Deut. 5:17)

14 Thou shalt not commit adultery.

15 Thou shalt not steal.

16 Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbor.

17 thou shalt not covet thy neighbor’s house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbor’s wife, nor his manservant nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor anything that is thy neighbor’s. (Deut. 5:21; Prov.6:29)

Now turn with me to Psalms 15:1,3

1 LORD who shall abide in thy tabernacle? who shall dwell in thy holy hill?

3 He that backbiteth not with his tongue, nor doeth evil to his neighbor, nor taketh up a reproach against his neighbor. (Ex. 23:3)

Even though I was offended by what they were saying against Christians the offense wasn’t against me but the very God we all serve (according to them). Although Matthew 22:37 – 40 states this:

37 Jesus said unto him, THOU SHALT LOVE THE LORD THY GOD WITH ALL THY HEART, AND WITH ALL THY SOUL, AND WITH ALL THY MIND.

38 This is the first and great commandment.

39 And the second is like unto it, THOU SHALT LOVE THY NEIGHBOR AS THY SELF. (Lev. 19:18; Mark 12:31; Rom. 13:9)

40 On these two commandments hang all the law and prophets.

But still my friend 1 John have this to say: 

1 John 4:20 If a man say, I love God, and  hateth his brother, he is a liar: for he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he hath not seen? (1 John 2:4)

I know right now I am talking about loving my neighbor, but my question is this how can you love your neighbor and never forgiving them in your own heart? Every time I remind myself of this awful but learning experience, I forgive them. Forgiveness is not for them but for me. Alright turn to Psalm 130:4 But there is forgiveness with thee, that thou mayest be feared.

Matthew 6:14,15 For if ye forgive men of their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you:

15 But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

So how awesome is that to forgive so that you will be forgiven by our heavenly Father. (Yahweh) I am reminded of a song by Hezekiah Walker “You Pray For Me” the song goes on to say “I wont hurt you with the words from my mouth, I love you, I need you to survive.” Note this if you want to walk close to God you must walk agreeably with one another.         

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Random Thoughts Racing Through My Head Part 2

With money being an issue and she ashamedly thought about how her business would have helped financially; yet without the stress and strain of not having a cushioned savings a plan for traveling vacations and more. Now with that being said how can someone sabotage their own family financial status without a care in the world, and or wanting to be a MAN. Ramona feels like a prisoner with certain privileges as long as she remembers to ask for permission to do what she wants. She feels that the marriage is one sided in favor of her husband and feels that many men would side with him and not her. He has even told her that what she felt about him is what he feels about her. When she felt it was time to tell him how she feels in the relationship. She has even felt afraid when he got a part of her past wrong he went into a rage of yelling, screaming out his point of her past. 
One day Ramona went through her old unfinished journals and read the countless STD's she had while with child and a couple were after the birth of a child. Ramona now questions the 25 years if in fact he ever really loved her or was she just an arm ornament so he would not have to be alone. While reading these journals she feels like she never really knew him the way she felt she should have. He didn't want her fixing her hair using lotion nor having the need to be a woman, so that it would be easier for him to flee into the arms of another woman. Why does he feel the need to be bitter towards me and chooses to be pleasant to others. I've noticed this how he treats one he treats the others, and when in the company of authority figures he is like a puppy to it's master, but once out of the presence he talks about them. Why does she stay is it because of the children or does she have a plan on the when she will leave? Ramona is the kind of person who is much the friendly unsure of how to conduct an interesting conversation, but has a need to keep talking like it is her last. 
In this relationship Ramona has become very lazy and depressive and not knowing when the tears will go away along with the feeling of loneliness. She cries almost every night and sometimes during the day and when her children come home she pretends to be happy and ready eager to hear how their day went. When they hurt she hurts even more. She is goes through enough for her and her children and then it is all left on her shoulders. Nothing that she grew up doing is allowed and nor her philosophy or motto is allowed. Does he even know her motto? "Help me while I am down and I am loyally yours. Kick me while I am down I may cry for a while but when I am able to stand on my own, I will leave you." Her philosophy is this to be loyal to the one who is loyal and helpful to you, and never be the one who bites the hand or hands of non-enemies. Lives by what is stated in Matthew 22:37-40 it Jesus telling the  Pharisees and the Sadducee about the greater commandment in which we should live. 

Welcome all to the world of Ramona by that I mean do not be so quick to judge any one without first understanding where one comes from, what they are going through, and where they would like to be going. For all that it takes getting to know that person intimately. Do not be one of those that just think that to be intimate is a requirement of the dance between the sheets. It is more than that and plan things together as friends.  

Colossians 3:18-19 King James Version (KJV)

¹⁸ Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.
¹⁹ Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.

Matthew 22:37-40 King James Version (KJV)

³⁷ Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind.
³⁸ This is the first and great commandment.
³⁹ And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.
⁴⁰ On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.